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The 10 caution rules for meeting people quite calmly |
African-Single.com provides a perfect environment for getting in touch with other single persons in an amusing and calm way.
It is a place where you are going to make friendly or sentimental relationships.
Even if your exchanges are limited to the online discussion or step out to a meeting, always act with discernment and behave in a responsible way.
In the virtual world like in the real one, the reason remains your best protection. |
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1. Do not skip the steps |
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Be careful against people who provide a so perfect profile. At the beginning, limit yourself to online exchange via the chat or e-mail in order to detect weird behaviours. Your contact might be not the one he/she pretends to be. Trust your intuition. |
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2. Keep your anonymity |
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The exchanges of messages between members of African-Single.com remain anonymous from the both sides until you decide to reveal your true identity. Do not mention in your free profile or in your first messages your last name, e-mail address, phone number, place of work or any other information allowing other people to identify you. When sending messages to other members, deactivate the automatic signature. Finally, if someone insists in gathering personal information or tries to gather information in an indirect way, do not respond and walk away. |
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3. Prudence and reason impose themselves |
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A safe relationship must be built with care and reflection. Avoid any contact whose you do not get the intentions. Confidence can only be earn through frankness and honesty. Take the time to understand the personality of your contacts. If you feel that someone is lying to you, take the necessary measures. Keep your head cold and do not fall in love at the first click. If you decide, with your contact, to meet, the same prudence impose itself. |
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4. Ask a photo to your contacts |
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A photo allows you to visualize your contact and to confirm your first impressions. Try to get multiples photos, in different situations so that you can be sure your contact is the one he/she pretends to be. If you keep receiving excuses instead of photos, consider he or she has something to hide. African-Single.com providing a free scanning service, a contact should have any reason not to provide a photo. |
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5. Talk through the phone |
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A talk through the phone could reveal how your contact is able to communicate and socialize. Think about your safety and do not communicate your home phone number to anyone. You should instead communicate your cell phone number. Give your phone number only when you feel ready and safe for this. |
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6. Accept to meet him/her only if YOU want it too |
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The main advantage of online meeting is that you can accumulate informations through the messages and then decide if it worth meeting him/her. Nothing is forcing you to meet a contact. Besides, even if a meeting was planned, you can still change your mind at the last minute. Sometimes we just do not know why we wish to keep our distances and anonimity with some people. Always follow your instinct more than your logic. |
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7. Decrypt the unvoices comments |
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Pay attention to the behaviour changes in your contact. These kinds of bad behaviours (anger, frustration, intimidation, manipulation etc.) must be taken as alarm signals. Stay put so that you can detect such behaviours especially if your contact does not give you any explanation about this behaviour:
1. He/she provides incoherent informations about his/her age, activities, physical shape, personal situation, profession etc.
2. He/she refuses to move to a phone talk despite the degree of intimity you reached through the previous messages.
3. He/she answers by prevaricating to direct questions.
4. He/she has a very different personality and figure from the profile presented on the web site.
5. He/she refuses to introduce you to his/her friends, colleagues or family. |
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8. Meet your contact in a public place |
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If you agree to meet a single person, inform a close friend of this meeting including the place, date, name of the contact and his/her phone number etc. Try to get to the meeting point by your own means. Also try to meet in a public place when there are people on it. You could go to a restaurant you used to go. Try to get back home by your own means too. |
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9. Take additional precautions when you are far from home |
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If you have a rendez-vous with a person living in another town, try to get a car and hotel room. Do not communicate the name of the hotel to the person you are going to meet. |
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10. Do not put yourself in a bad position |
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Never do anything unless you feel safe. If the person you met scares you, just leave the place with an excuse. If you believe something is very wrong, find an excuse to escape and call the police. Your safety is far more important that anything else. Do not hesitate to be prudent and take precautions. |
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